Hi, I’m Tina Matejka (mah-tee-kah) Thank you for dropping by!
Can we talk rules for a minute? We are all subject to rules that were created by someone else. Think rules in the workplace, the rules of the road and let’s not forget all those etiquette rules. Rules can be helpful; they help to create order, set expectations and establish consequences.
If anyone of us was crowned “Creator of Rules”, our rules in these situations may be different based on what we think makes sense.
Let’s talk about a very important area where you and your partner’s rules “rule” - in your relationship. Maybe you have experienced some well-meaning people providing unsolicited advice because they believe they know what is best for your relationship. Maybe the advice was helpful, maybe not because no one except the two of you know what kind of relationship you want and what works for the two of you.
Before I continue, I’d like to share just a little about myself.
I worked as a Human Resources professional for many years. I helped others resolve conflicts, find common ground and yes, to follow the rules. Without a doubt, the best part of my position was when I worked with individuals who choose to put in the effort to be successful in their position.
After living in California for many years, I moved back to the Midwest to be closer to my awesome family. My plan was to get settled and then find a job in Human Resources. Well, the settled part happened but I ditched the idea of going back to the career I had known for many years. I followed my passion, and my dream, to work with people who want to transform and build their life and relationship according to their rules. TLT Coaching was born.
I am an iPEC-certified professional relationship coach (CPC), an Energy Leadership Index™ Master Practitioner (ELI-MP), and a COR.E Dynamics™ Specialist in Leadership, Transitions and Wellbeing. Okay, that’s a lot of words and letters, but let’s get real - what does that mean to the couples and individuals I work with?
In life, our values guide our actions. As a coach, and as an individual, some of the values that guide me include trustworthiness, non-judgment, authenticity, and connection to others. If being in a “judgment-free” zone, confidentiality and having someone really listen to you is important, my values are in complete alignment.
In our coaching partnership, we focus on what is important to you and your partner-not my agenda. Let’s discover how the two of you will ignite your relationship so you can thrive together.
This is not a cookie-cutter approach. You decide what excites you about the relationship the two of you want and we work on how to get there. It’s not “breaking news” that making some changes can take a little practice before they are second nature. However, a little fun, humor, and patience may be some of your secret ingredients to success.